One of the most frequently asked questions I’ve received since announcing my pregnancy is, “Is Chloe excited to be a big sister??”
To be completely honest…at first, not so much. When we first told Chloe that mommy has a baby growing inside her belly and that she was going to be a big sister, she kind of giggled and looked confused. She kept asking us, “why?” (which is also currently her favorite word). She was curious but didn’t quite get it yet.
So that’s when Allen and I had her start watching some videos about being a big sister. She started to understand what’s happening, but it seemed like the more she understood, the more she actually hated the idea. She started acting out and having more tantrums and it was like all of a sudden she wanted to be the baby again. She started asking Allen and me to hold her, feed her and carry her everywhere.
I was so confused. I started to talk to some of my mom friends who told me that that kind of behavior was totally normal. Kids are so smart and once they understand that they won’t be the only one anymore, they start feelingjealous.
Chloe has always been a daddy’s girl, but ever since I’ve become pregnant, she won’t let daddy do anything! She only wants mommy to wake her up, to make her breakfast, to drop her off at school, to pick her up from school, to play with her, to give her a bath, to brush her teeth, and to put her to bed.
She would actually start screaming at the sight of daddy… it was the strangest thing! Needless to say, she wanted my attention and only my attention. I’ve become a very busy mama since I’ve become pregnant because of the extra amount of love and attention I’ve been having to give Chloe which is actually quite exhausting but I understand why she has been acting this way.
Now that it’s been a few months since she has found out that mommy is pregnant, she has been slowly warming up to the idea of it all (but still super attached to me). Here are a few things I’ve been doing to ease her into her role as big sister:
2. The Movies
We’ve been re-watching some of her favorite movies like Frozen, and explaining why having a sibling is so much fun! She understands the Anna and Elsa are sisters AND best friends, and that they love each other unconditionally.
The only problem now is that she ONLY wants a sister! So much so that when people ask her if she wants a brother or a sister she’ll reply, “Sister! No brother!”
3. Stopped Talking About It
Allen and I slowly stopped talking about “the baby” all the time. For a while, we talked about the baby non-stop with Chloe, and kept telling her how excited she should be! We soon realized that the less we talked about it, the more curious she got. One day, one of her teachers congratulated me on my pregnancy, and it turns out Chloe had told her teachers that mommy has a baby in her tummy! I was so surprised!
We’ve made a lot of progress since we first told Chloe about baby number two coming, and I know she’s going to make an amazing older sister.
To be honest, it’s even hard for me to imagine having another baby and loving him/her as much as I love my CloClo, but I’ve heard from other moms that as your family grows; your heart grows.
If any mamas out there have any advice on this topic, please leave a comment down below! I would be so forever grateful!