How to Make a Relationship Work
One of the biggest things I’ve had to learn after I met Allen was juggling both my relationship and career. It was so easy to get lost in my work that Allen often ended up becoming second priority to my work. But over the years, especially after being married, I’ve come to learn how to balance both better. I’ve narrowed it down to 5 tips I’ve learned (and now stick to) over the past few years that works for me to have a happy relationship!
1. Manage your time & priorities
A year or two ago, I used to work until 3am at night and wake up at 6am to work another full day. My schedule was crazy and it left me with basically no time to Allen because when he’d go to sleep at midnight, I would still be on my laptop. It was not only unhealthy to work constantly every day all day, I also got easily burnt out. I’ve now learned to prioritize my time so that I’d spend a dedicated amount of time solely working, and still leave enough time to spend with Allen. It’s easy to work non-stop, but you have to learn when to shut that down and spend time with your loved one(s)!
2. Have a balanced up and down time
Even though I travel very often, when I do have time with the hubs, we make the most of it. We balance our time together with fun activities like traveling, but we also love going to brunch with our frenchies on Sunday mornings. It’s important to balance your time together with up and down time so your relationship is something that not only excites but relaxes and rejuvenates you!
3. Be considerate
When work becomes hectic, it’s easy to become very focused on yourself and forget that there’s two in a relationship. You may have deadlines and stressful projects on your plate, but don’t forget that there’s another person in your relationship that’s going through similar things. It’s very important to still be considerate regardless of how busy you may be. Little things like taking him out to eat at his favorite noodle place or even doing the dishes can go a long way!
4. Be and DO Your Best
One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you aren’t alone. You have another person to rely on when you’re down, and he/she will help and love you regardless of what you’re going through. But for that reason, it’s very easy to become complacent in a relationship. When I’m busy working, it’s easy to take Allen for granted. But I have to remember that him cooking for me and picking up after our dogs is something he chooses to do for me, and I have to do my best for him too, whether it’s dressing to impress or just cooking his favorite dinner!
5. Grow TOGETHER
One of the things I love about Allen is that he is a very kind hearted person. He’s very patient and giving, and he has this ability to make everyone in the room laugh. Don’t tell him I said this, but he’s softened my heart a lot and I’ve in turn become more understanding and patient to my friends and family. He’s also been with me since Day 1 when I was a student at FIDM to now going to fashion week in Paris. First and foremost we are partners and we support each other through the thick and thin of our careers. As time passes you should be going stronger with your partner, learning and growing together, regardless of what obstacles comes in your way.
And there you have it! How to have a perfect relationship .. Just kidding! No relationship is perfect, but as long as you are willing to keep trying, there will always be a way. I hope you found these tips helpful and please feel free to leave me any tips you guys have as well! & follow me on instagram for more crazy photos of the hubs and I!