Wedding Etiquette

posted by on 2014.07.31, under Chriselle Inc., LIFESTYLE, Wedding



As wedding season is in full bloom now, I just wanted to share some tips from experience I have on proper wedding etiquette. It’s been almost 2 years since i’ve been married (Wedding posts HERE) , and as i’m attending tons of weddings starting next week , I thought I share a few tips…some may be obvious and some not so much. Knowing these tips can help ensure you help to make life for the bride and groom easier and happier!



It’s easy to just text the bride & groom your rsvp, but the bride and groom have so much to remember it’s easy for that text to get lost amongst all their messages about flowers and caterers. Actually sending in the card helps the bride & groom keep track of all their guests, so make sure you send in the rsvp card on time! Most likely the bride spent a lot of time (and possibly money) on creating beautiful invitations, so something as simple as sending in your RSVP card on time can mean the world for the bride (and groom). Trust me, there is nothing more frustrating than trying to track down guests to see if they are attending the wedding!


2. Registry

When purchasing a gift, it’s best to get them something from their registry if they’re registered. That way the bride & groom will be happy knowing they got exactly what they wanted and you don’t have to stress about finding the perfect gift. If you buy them a large gift, consider having it shipped to their house so they don’t have to worry about how to fit the large item in their car after the reception. Also keep in mind that there are some couples that do NOT register in hopes that they will receive monetary gifts, but if you are unsure it’s always best to ask someone from their court.


3. Bringing other guests

Unless it specifies on the RSVP card that you can bring a +1, I would ask the bride and groom before showing up with an uninvited guest. (No wedding crashers please!)


4. Wearing white

Traditionally only the bride wears white, but if you have a cute white dress you want to wear, I would make sure the bride is okay with it first before showing up in white to the wedding.


5. Don’t be late

This one seems obvious but at weddings more often than not everyone tends to assume everyone else will be late, so by the time everyone actually gets there, the ceremony is pushed back an hour or so. The bride & groom still has to do family portraits and group shots after the ceremony, so be mindful and please be on time!


6. Let the bride shine

It’s natural to want to look your best at an event, but I would avoid any extremes that will have you as the center of attention. Whether it be an extreme plunging neckline, an extremely short dress, or an extreme pops of neon. There are ways to dress elegantly and beautifully so that the bride can shine on her special day.

These are all general tips of wedding etiquette that I personally experienced on my wedding day or have noticed from other weddings. Keep in mind that everyone is different, and not one wedding is the same. Keeping these tips in mind, I hope you enjoy this wedding season!


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Everything here is so beautiful! I recently attended a wedding; you can check it out at my blog :)

rvdigal ( August 5, 2014 at 7:54 PM )

Everything looks perfect! And thats how it should be!
Such a great inspiration and attention to details ;)


Julie ( August 4, 2014 at 7:56 AM )

I love all the pictures! Everything look just sooo beautiful! ;)

Konstantina Bourtzou ( August 4, 2014 at 6:49 AM )

looking good with your hubby in the first pic chriselle!!!

shades of bellz ( August 4, 2014 at 5:03 AM )

I hate it when little attention hogs wear white to a wedding. One time in my cousin’s wedding, a girl wore white so when they were taking photos in a park they thought that girl was the bride!!!! She totally stole the spotlight of the real bride. Very in considerate

pj rocha ( August 2, 2014 at 6:39 PM )

With all the work put into that special day, its the least guests could do to make it more special :D

khatsii ( August 2, 2014 at 12:14 AM )

I agree on 4.wearing white and 6.let the bride shine. Sometimes, your relatives (esp young ladies) are just so attention whore. They wear much make up or wear attention grabbing clothes. And if ever I’m getting married, I would request the guests to wear a specific color.

steph ( August 1, 2014 at 6:39 PM )
Elmira vatani ( August 1, 2014 at 6:04 PM )

Great advice! You looked stunning on your wedding day by the way :D I remember the Youtube videos about the preparations for the wedding a couple of years ago. I’m proud to have seen you grow with your career over the years! :) Much love from Amsterdam!

Yin ( August 1, 2014 at 7:44 AM )

Very good tips indeed! :)

Michelle ( August 1, 2014 at 7:43 AM )

What a coincidence- I am going to a wedding of my friend today!:-) Lovely tips btw.


Miri ( August 1, 2014 at 12:30 AM )

great simple tips! thank you! <3

Crystael ( July 31, 2014 at 11:34 PM )

A very important one, in regards to letting the bride shine on her special day: DO NOT PROPOSE AT A FRIENDS WEDDING. Unless approved by the bride and groom.

I have heard one too many stories of inconsiderate people stealing the show by proposing to their significant other in the middle of a reception or wedding. It is downright rude.

Sandra Real ( July 31, 2014 at 9:57 PM )

I have a wedding to attend this week, and I bought an off-white dress “didn’t really notice at first” .. but luckily the bride is my cousin so she doesn’t mind :) .. but still I hope I won’t look so lame in photos :D !

Rasha ( July 31, 2014 at 5:53 PM )
Cath ( July 31, 2014 at 5:34 PM )

Love wedding season! great photos~



Vivian ( July 31, 2014 at 2:08 PM )

I picked out a dress and found out it’s a similar color to the bridesmaid’s dresses. Is it ok to wear a similar color as a guest?

Iris ( July 31, 2014 at 1:14 PM )

These are some great tips! :D Pinning this for later in case I need it… one thing that really irritates me is people who wear white to a wedding… there’s so many colours out there so why choose the exact colour the bride is probably wearing ;) xx

Katie ( July 31, 2014 at 10:12 AM )

Thanks for the great tips! will definitely keep those in mind <3
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Claire ( July 31, 2014 at 9:28 AM )

What a gorgeous post Chriselle! You made me dream…
Thank you
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alixe boucard ( July 31, 2014 at 9:21 AM )

Great tips and I agree with all of them especially the +1 guess. I had a horrible experience when one of my guest’s guest was videotaping the whole reception, it made me and my husband feel like they were spying on us for some odd reason.


Juliana ( July 31, 2014 at 8:07 AM )

Stunning images and great tips…I enjoyed reading all the dos and don’ts!


Michele LoBosco ( July 31, 2014 at 7:44 AM )

Excelent advice and great tips. I’m happy that u made this post because not everyone is considerate about time and attire. Amazing post.

shannette ( July 31, 2014 at 6:38 AM )

Stunning!!! everything is beautiful .
See you soon

FREED MODE ( July 31, 2014 at 6:24 AM )

Gorgeous photos Chriselle :) Great tips!

Melissa ( July 31, 2014 at 6:21 AM )

I’d think these are no-brainers, but wow. Good to know for when I get to my wedding attending days :)

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Mariah ( July 31, 2014 at 6:11 AM )

You are right about everything! The sad thing is that most people are aware of these unspoken rules and still choose to ignore them. That’s why I loved the pre war era – there was a dress code for every occasion and people obeyed it (think Downton Abbey).

nena. ( July 31, 2014 at 5:42 AM )

Great photos. Love your advice.

Lindsay ( July 31, 2014 at 5:40 AM )
Lisa ( July 31, 2014 at 4:46 AM )

Beautiful post and lovely tips Chriselle ! I have enjoyed reading and browsing!

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WELL LIVING BLOG ( July 31, 2014 at 3:40 AM )

Oh wow, beautiful photos! I can’t believe I haven’t been to any wedding yet! :(

Fashion Party blog ( July 31, 2014 at 3:30 AM )

These are great guest tips! I definitely learnt a thing or 2 from his post.


TERESA ( July 31, 2014 at 3:12 AM )


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